The Big 9

There are nine Fruits of the Spirit:  love, joy, patience, peace, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control.  Now.  Which of these are natural for me?  I wouldn't say any are natural,  but I guess faithfulness is the easiest.  I am pretty faithful.  Even if I don't especially like you, I will be faithful if I feel you are being crapped on.  The rest of the nine are fairly non-existent.  Well, I love pretty well too.  OK, the 7 are non-existent.  I would like God to help me develop all 9, but if I had to pick one I would say self-control.  But then I would feel kinda bad, cuz that only benefits me really.  However, maybe someone should be concerned about my self-control.  If not me, than who?